That burden on your shoulders bogging you down, could be shame. That heaviness crushing your chest making it hard to breathe, could be shame too. It might be that critic in your head, the one that fills you up with endless horrible messages.
The dictionary defines shame as: a painful emotion caused by a strong sense of guilt, embarrassment, unworthiness, or disgrace; the consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety. A condition of humiliating disgrace or disrepute; One that brings dishonor, disgrace or condemnation.
Do you feel shame?
Most child abuse and domestic violence victims live their lives, never realizing they are carrying around truck loads of shame. It’s usually hidden deep within, often masked by denial, excuses and addiction. It can be a feeling of living under a heavy dirty old blanket of guilt, unworthiness and disgrace.
Shame is emotional punishment for doing what our conscience tells us is bad. Shame is emotional pain that turns into physical pain that can lead to health problems. Shame can make us twitch, or blush in anguish. Shame can drive some to act out violently against themselves or others. I think is the worst and most damaging feeling in the entire spectrum of emotions.
For me, all the silence and the secrecy escalated my feelings of inferiority and unworthiness. I never felt good enough. Year after year that deep hidden emotion caused depression, guilt, humiliation, discomfort, mortification and all kinds of physical ailments. It was absolutely debilitating.
Like most victims, it took me years to understand …. all that shame was never mine to carry. I was innocent. I did nothing wrong. I did not bring dishonor or disgrace to myself or anyone else – my perpetrators did. And my perpetrators were themselves once abused children who carried about their own shame … that’s why I’ve made it my mission to stop the insidious cycle of abuse.
Will you join me?
To Your healing tomorrows.
Post by: Casey Morley – “I have emerged from a life filled with abuse and chronicle my journey in my book, Crawling Out, available at CrawlingOut.com. I hope by sharing my story I can help other victims of domestic violence realize that they too, can start their own journey of crawling out – and that they don’t have to walk alone. I am also the owner of Casey’s Image Consultants, and a Certified M’lis Wellness Consultant offering Lifestyle Change Programs for detoxifying the body. I am dedicated to helping people improve their appearance and overall health from the inside out.” Visit www.crawlingout.com to get your copy of Crawling Out today!